From the day he was born, women have always been drawn to Logan. So it should come as no surprise that when Logan entered kindergarten, one of his first friends was a girl.
At first, Logan came home gushing about his new friend and all the things they did together at school. But one day, just as quickly, the stories stopped. Brian and Kelly decided to get to the bottom of what happened, and in the process, Brian revisited a life lesson about accepting people for who they are. Brian picks up the story in Chapter 25, “The Ladies’ Man.”
Kelly finally found out what had happened, albeit after a few weeks of silence from the normally loquacious Logan: He had caught Abby picking her nose and was so disgusted that he didn’t want to be her friend anymore.
It should be noted that Kelly is a certifiable germaphobe. She keeps our house spotless. She detests any type of dirt, fingerprints, dust, spills and stains on household surfaces. Logan has inherited the clean gene from her. He’ll get dirty playing, like all boys do, but he’ll want to clean up immediately afterward. We’ve never had an issue with reminding Logan to wash his hands after using the bathroom.
So when Logan saw Abby picking her nose, he was repulsed. He couldn’t get his mind around the idea that this lovely girl that he had been so enamored with could do something so vile.
Whether you’re 5, 105 or any age in-between, the world is divided into two types of people: People who pick their nose, and people who lie about it. You never outgrow it. Everyone has sent their index finger digging for nuggets in those private, unattractive moments. The difference is that young kids have virtually no sense of self-consciousness and are far more apt to pick in full view of others.
Logan has to get used to the idea that he’s living in a world of people who pick their noses, and indulge other disgusting habits, when no one is looking. He also has to learn how to forgive and forget.
Focus on the action, not the person. Hate the sin; love the sinner. There is a reason why those life lessons are hammered into our heads from an early age by our parents, grandparents and teachers. It is a method of dealing with negative behavior in a way that doesn’t alienate the person in question.
The biggest lesson Logan needed to learn when dealing with Abby is to condemn the action while still accepting the person. As he gets older, he’ll learn how to discreetly pull a friend aside and say, “What you’re doing is not cool,” as opposed to kicking them to the curb outright.